It has been a busy couple of weeks on the farm and in the studio. The school holidays have ended, the weather has been steadily improving (in other words getting warmer) and I have been continuing to prepare for my first market.
The return to school was not as smooth as I would have liked with one child struggling to get there at all and another excluded for two weeks on the first day, which means that I have spent a fair bit of time in conversation with various professionals, providers and support people, looking for yet another new strategy. The search for the strategy isn’t over yet but some ideas are starting to come together and some further meetings this week should help to finalise a new plan. Until the next crisis hits and we need another plan. The life of a special needs parent – constantly looking for the next plan, idea, strategy or support. Sigh.
Of course this all eats into my ‘making’ time but I have still been able to work on a few new products over the last couple of weeks. I decided that attending markets means that I need a broader range of price points (because, you know, I am taking my own advice!) so I have produced a range of earrings that are all centred on teacups and tea pots! They have been really well received and I have some further ideas in the pipeline so that is a bit exciting.
I also decided that I needed to express my support for the LBGTIQ community while the same sex marriage survey is going on here in Australia. I have a number of friends who are part of this community and am conscious that the conversations being held in the media and online are hurting people that I love. One of my friends shared a picture of her family making the word ‘yes’ from stones on a beach, as a positive way of expressing how they were feeling. It got me to thinking, and the end result is a rainbow ‘yes’ tea cosy, because that is my way of sharing my feelings.
I managed to get some more candles made, using some new tea scents – chai latte and a rooibus and mango fragrance. The house still smells good!
Then we hit Tuesday. Tuesday was my birthday and I had quietly thought I might take the kids out for a treat, get a bit of time to myself and then go out to dinner with my parents and the children. A gentle, slightly self-indulgent, plan. But nature had something different in mind, so when I woke early on Tuesday it was to my Dad telling me that there were two new sets of twin lambs born. We all rushed down to the paddock and could see one set with their mum , very obviously only just delivered.
The brown and white lamb is a boy while the black and white twin is a girl. We think her spots look like constellations!
Then there were two other babies wandering around amongst all the ewes, being headbutted out of the way quite roughly. Some investigation showed me which ewe was their mother but she was very disinterested in looking after her babies, so we settled in to watch for a while. After a few hours it became obvious that she wasn’t letting them feed – each time they tried to attach to her ginormous teats and udders she kicked them away. This set the pace for the rest of the day – we had to separate her and the twins from the rest of the flock, to pen them and see if she would feed, then to try and help the babies to attach (which involved Dad holding the ewe in a headlock, me holding her back legs, and my mum holding the lamb to the teat. When she continued to push them off we resorted to milking her to get some colostrum for them, and had to make the decision to take the babies and bottle feed them. I second guessed and questioned every decision I needed to make, rang the vet, took advice from others and worried and worried and worried. But we got there in the end – two baby lambs who were tired and hungry were warm and snug in a crate in our house. It took two days before they could attach to the bottle teat themselves – we had to pry their mouths open to get the teat in, but on day 4 I can report that they are happily drinking without aid, and are full of beans, bouncing around on the grass in the outside run and sleeping in the crate inside at night. It has been a little stressful, with middle of the night feeds and worry about their health but we seem to be through the worst of it. Although their mother still has a giant udder she doesn’t seem to have developed mastitis and is wandering around the paddock with the others quite happily. Now to wait for the rest of them to have their lambs! I am quite glad that they didn’t all arrive at once – four was quite enough for one day!
These are our poddy lambs, who are being bottle fed. The brown and white one is a girl, while the black and white is a boy – the opposite of the other set of twins!
My birthday was sort of lost in all of the lamb care and we didn’t go out anywhere but the day ended quite nicely. I had a gin and tonic with my parents, sitting outside enjoying the evening air, then defrosted a curry from the freezer and the children and I sat and talked and laughed while we ate it, then played cards together and went for a walk. That hour together was magical and was the best gift I could have hoped for!
Since then we have had the middle chick’s birthday – she is a teenager now! I finally gave in a bought her a horse for her birthday. The fact that it is plastic and stands about 20 cm high doesn’t seem to have bothered her too much!
I had another cake fail/rescue for her birthday when I discovered that the cream that I had planned to whip for her birthday pavlova was ‘non-whipping’ cream. Gulp! So a batch of thick vanilla custard was made, and cooled down in an ice bath, and served very well as a substitute. It would be nice to make a birthday cake that doesn’t require custard to save it though!
As so often is the case, my week looked nothing like I thought it would, but it has had some lovely moments of joy even though it was completely off script! I hope that your week has had moments of peace and joy too.
Thanks for all the lovely feedback on my earlier post about things to think about before attending a market. I have had some great conversations with people as a result of this! Today I am going to focus on the things that you should be doing in preparation for attending a market. These are all things that take a bit of time and organisation and need to be done in the weeks leading up to the market – not the day before. The stuff you are doing the day before is a whole other list!!
Organise some great product shots.
What? Why do I need good photos of my products for a market – the customers at the market will be able to see them in the flesh (so to speak!). Hypothetical narrators questions aside, the answer is that having great product shots means that the promoters of the market are going to be able to share your images on social media, and on their advertisements, so that people are enticed to attend the market. If you have some dodgy shots taken on your old iPhone3 in dim lighting and with a cluttered background the organisers are not going to want to use your images, so you miss out on attracting a whole bunch of potential customers. I have seen some shocking product photos provided by designers – one set was of some beautiful handmade knitwear displayed on a glass topped table that was covered in greasy hand prints and dust – which definitely did not induce me to look further at the products.
Tips for good product shots include natural lighting ( I personally love taking photos outside in spring in the middle of the day but that is not always possible or convenient!), a flattering background that doesn’t overpower the product, and if the product is an unusual one, having it presented so that it’s purpose is obvious. For example a scarf will have more impact draped over a form than folded flat on a table. Backgrounds don’t have to be elaborate – I have friends who have had great success with some patterned wallpaper that gave the look of wooden boards or bricks. Once again, making sure that your photos reflect your brand is important. You don’t have to have a professional photographer take shots for you (especially if all of your products are one of a kind) but it can be a good idea so that you have a nice set of professional images to use in your marketing.
A designer I know has a great eye for matching objects and creating stories. She has helped out a few other designers I know by taking flat lay photos of their products paired with accessories that enhance them. Those photos really pop on social media! (Hmmmm……maybe I need to give her a call myself!) Remember – you don’t have to do everything yourself – you might know someone who is happy to help with making sure you have great photos.
2. Make sure you have a way of letting people know who you are.
I get really frustrated when I attend a market and see a stall that I like, but I can’t see the name of the stall or business so I can’t make a note about ordering from them, etc. Letting people know who you are is really important. Getting a banner made up doesn’t cost a lot these days – a vinyl banner with your own design from Vistaprint starts at about $20. If you want to do something different to match your brand there are lots of options for handmade signage, from painted fabric banners, to bunting, painted wooden signs, light boxes and more. It just needs to be something that can be identified by someone who is a few metres away from your stall. Hanging it below your table may look cute but can’t be seen by someone the next row over. Hanging signage above your stall or on a stand that stretches above eye level is much more effective.
The second thing you need to have organised in this regard before you attend a market is business cards or flyers. Customers will often take a card so that they can remember you for a custom order, or to come back to at the next market, or for them to follow you online and purchase from you in the future. If you don’t have an easy piece of paper for them to pick up they aren’t going to remember you. What should be on your business card or flyer? Your business name, your tag line (you know – the bit that tells people what your business does), your email, social media addresses and website. I used to keep mine really anonymous until a marketing expert told me that if she is given a business card that doesn’t have a name on it she throws them out. As a result I now have my name and phone number on there too – in case someone wants to place an order that way.
3. Be ready to take people’s money.
After all, that is the name of the game. You aren’t there to take names, you are there to take money in exchange for your wonderful products. (Actually you might also want to take names but we will talk about that later. Right now we are focused on the moola, the cash, the big bucks. Alright – I will stop now.) What does that mean for preparation? You need to think about how to look after the cash that you receive in a safe manner, and you need to decide if you want to be able to offer credit card facilities.
Dealing with cash first, there are two main options that I think work for a market – a cash box or a cash apron. A cash box is useful because you can separate the notes and coins out and therefore give change easily. It can be locked and you can keep the key on yourself for added security during the market. An apron has several advantages – you can have a zipped pocket to hold the money so it is on your person at all times and less easily stolen by dodgy thieves, and you can use the apron pockets to hold your phone and credit card reader. I have previously used an apron that I made myself so it had pockets for everything, plus a copy of my old logo printed onto fabric so it marked me as the stall holder. I am undecided about which option to go with this time, but will need to make the decision soon so that I can buy or make what I need.
With regard to taking payments from bank cards it is worth thinking about because many markets don’t have ATMs and once people run out of cash they stop buying if they can’t use their cards. The options for taking money via card are broad these days. Paypal offers a facility that connects to your Paypal business account, many banks offer a facility that connects to your bank accounts, and there are card readers such as Square which allow you to take payments without belonging to a certain bank. Each of these methods will charge a fee for transactions, so you need to be aware of how this affects your prices, but with the ability to buy a unit like these starting at $60 it is a good investment to make if you are going to be attending a number of markets.
4. Know how you are going to display your products
In Part One I talked about designing your display to enhance your product, etc. In the lead up to a market you need to know what props, tables, screens, marquees, etc you are going to use so that you can buy parts you don’t have, repair any that have been damaged, or make what you need. A few things to consider here are the size of your furniture and props, and how you are going to transport them to the venue of the market. For example I have a great set of shelves that would be really attractive as part of my display in a stall, but they can only go in a trailer, not in my car. Taking a trailer will work well for some venues but not for others, so making sure you know what you are taking and HOW you are taking it is good to work out well in advance so that changes can be made if necessary.
If you are going to use a table cloth (cannot recommend this enough) you need to make sure that you have one that fits your table/s, and check whether it needs cleaning, ironing, etc. Again – not something you want to be doing the night before a market if you can help it.
Having a trial run of your set up a few days prior to the market is a good plan as it allows you to check that you will fit into your allocated space, that you have all the pieces you need, and that nothing needs repair or replacing. If you are relying on the venue to provide a table, display board, or chair, make sure that you know the dimensions so that you can measure and check your equipment at home and know that it will fit.
5. Know how much product you have and what you need to make before the market.
I know I sound like Captain Obvious but you might be surprised by the number of times designers ask a few days before a big market how much stock they should bring. If you are going to have a successful market then you need to have this worked out a few weeks in advance. It is a good idea to make a list of all the products that you already have, and how many of each item you have, then to make a list of what your target amount to take to market is. This then allows you to map out how much you need to make before the market. In determining how much product to take things to think about are what sort of traffic the market is expected to get, how long it goes for, what have been your best sellers previously, etc. One designer I know who attends a quarterly market keeps records of each market so she can predict how much stock to bring for different times of the year. When you are starting out it is definitely a bit of trial and error so it is important to have a plan and then you can assess after the market what worked and what didn’t.
I recently read a comment in a forum I belong to by a woman who explained that in deciding whether to attend a market she looks whether she can make 10 times the cost of the stall hire. If she can’t then she doesn’t apply. This is useful to think about when determining your stock levels. If you are paying $20 for a stall then on this formula you need to sell $200 worth. If you have paid $50 you need to sell $500 worth. How much do your products cost – do you have enough to sell to make that sort of money? Do you have a good level of stock at the price point that you think will sell best? For example a school fair will probably see a high turnover at the low price point with kids spending their pocket money and parents supporting the local school. At a design market touting itself as high quality, exclusive, etc, customers are going to be willing to spend larger amounts of money on big purchases so you would be short changing yourself if you only take a small number of high price point pieces.
6. Tell people that you are going to be at this market
Social media promotion of an event that you are attending is a free but effective way of drawing customers to your market. Most markets will have some graphics that you can use, or you can use your own images and set out the location, date and time of the market. Creating a Facebook event and inviting all your friends is another great way to make sure that people know that it is on. And don’t just tell them once – remind people in the lead up to the market that you will be attending and share some images of what you are bringing with you to the market. Build a campaign so that they can’t avoid knowing that there is a market on next Saturday and that you will be there, and that there are lots of other great things to do in the area.
7. Read the stallholder information
When I was working on the administrative side of a market it was incredibly frustrating to have repeated frantic phone calls from stallholders asking questions that had already been answered multiple times. It was equally frustrating to arrive at the market to hear stallholders say things like ‘If I had known there was this event on at the same time as the market I would have brought different products’ when the details had been provided and advice given on this very issue a number of times. So many of the designers would then say ‘Oh I don’t have time to read that material’. Really??? This is your business and you don’t have time to read the information that will help you to have a really successful market experience, not get fined for breaking local bylaws, be promoted as a designer to watch, etc?
If you are serious about getting the most out of your market experience, do yourself a favour and read the material provided. Know what time you can bump in and what time you have to bump out by. Know what the rules are about whether you can set up a marquee inside a building, whether you need to have your electrical cords tagged and tested, whether you will be allowed to drive into the venue or not. Know whether you need to provide your own tables and chairs, what size your allocated space is, whether there is free wi-fi, and what will get you banned from the market! Because when you don’t know these things and are confronted with them during your set up, or in the middle of selling your products it causes nothing but stress!!
If you are on top of these 7 things in the weeks leading up to the market you are attending then you are well on your way to a successful market experience! My next post will be the list of things that you need to take with you to a market – the checklist of what to pack the day before. If you have any suggestions to add to the list of pre-market preparation I would love to hear from you!
In preparation for my return to the world of being a market stall holder in a few weeks time, I am going to publish a series of posts on preparing for a market, and attending a market. I have spent the last few years working on the other side of the fence, supporting designers to hold stalls themselves, and giving advice on how to maximize their sales, their business and their brand. Now that I am back on the designer side of the fence it is time to remember all my good advice and apply it to myself. By writing a series of posts I hope to help myself remember all that good advice, and share it with you at the same time!
What is the purpose of you having a market stall?
This might sound silly but actually there are lots of different reasons for taking your products to market. These can include testing your products, marketing your products, taking orders for future delivery of custom products, attracting wholesaler buyers, and, of course, making money. Your purpose might be a combination of all of these reasons, but it is good to be clear with yourself why you are doing this, as it will help guide your decisions about which markets to apply for, what products to take with you, how to display your products and how to design your stall presentation.
2. Who is your target customer?
While it is easy to say ‘anyone who wants to buy my stuff’, actually knowing who your target customer is can help you with everything from which stalls to apply for, to how to display your products and how to market them. When I was holding market stalls selling my bags I had a description of my target customer that I wrote down – it included the sort of job my customer might have, the things she liked to do in her spare time, and where she lived. While my target customer never actually presented herself to me and said ‘Hi, what you have is perfect for me, let me buy it all’, having a clear idea of who I was aiming my products at helped a lot. It especially helped a lot when someone who didn’t fit my target market criticised my pricing, or when someone who didn’t fit my target market started a conversation with me that ended up with them learning more about my product and buying it after all!
My target customer is more than someone who likes tea. My target customer also includes people who are buying gifts, who like quirky ideas, quality materials, and unique, one of a kind items. This means that they probably aren’t going to be found in abundance at a garage sale set up in the carpark of a shopping centre, but will definitely be found at a market promoting handmade or local makers.
3. Do you know your brand and how you want to represent it?
Describing how you develop your brand is a whole separate post, but the question is, do you have a brand, and do you know how you want to use your brand to sell your products? Knowing your brand can help with things like how you want to display your products, what you will wear while working on your stall, what colours and styles you will use in your signage, and how you will ‘dress’ your stall. For example, if you are selling a product that is organic and earthy in nature, your brand is likely to be one based on nature, clean lines, and healthy. Having a market stall dressed with flashing coloured lights and blaring 80’s rock is not representing your brand or telling your story.
My brand is more than just a logo (although my logo reflects my brand). It is about handmade items made with care using quality materials to create unique, one of a kind, products, and products that are kind to the environment. My stall set up needs to convey this, so there will be no flashing Christmas lights, or hawker style inducements as they don’t reflect my brand. (There probably will be a few cups of tea happening though!)
4. Do you have a range of products that will appeal to different price points?
If your products are all handmade, unique or artisan items they are likely to have a higher price point. Not all customers can afford large purchases, but many are attracted to your stall by the promise of beautiful things, so having a range of items with differing prices can allow them to buy something that gives them that sense of being part of your story, without breaking their bank. At my first stall at the Handmade Markets, selling my bags, I also had a box of fat quarters for sale. My bag prices started at $40, but the fat quarters were $5 and $6 each. Part of my brand at that time was about sharing a love of beautiful fabrics in each piece that I made, so selling some of those fabrics stayed with the brand, but allowed for smaller purchases too. I also had smaller pouches and pencil rolls priced between $10 and $25, again providing a range of prices for those attracted to my brand.
5.Is there a cohesion between your products and how you are displaying them?
The ways in which you can display your products at a market are many and varied and range from the simple to the elaborate with everything in between. I will write a separate post about the options with displays but the question I am asking here is a little like the question about branding, but has a different emphasis. A designer who I know and respect changes her display props regularly, always looking for a point of difference between her stalls and her neighbours. However there is one key point that always remains, no matter what her props – they are always re-purposed objects that subtly highlight that her products are ethically made from recycled clothing. The cohesion between her products and her display means that the display doesn’t overpower the products but enhances them.
Knowing your brand helps here, but also knowing how your products will stand out helps with this question. Now that I am focused on quirky tea paraphernalia using large shelf displays where teacups will look lost in proportion to the shelves isn’t going to work. I need to have smaller displays that won’t dwarf the products, and will allow them to be clearly seen. A flat shelf full of teacups has much less impact than a tiered display where each cup and saucer can be seen fully. Tea and all it’s paraphernalia lends itself to a cosy indoors feel, so having an industrial style display shelf would be incongruous.
My next post will be all about the list of things you need to do prior to attending a market, and then I will follow it up with a list of things you need to take to the market. With all of this writing I am sure to be organised for my first stall! I would love to hear any advice you have about things to think about before you attend a market!
Not the catchiest title for a blog post but there is so much to report from the last few weeks that I needed a catch-all phrase! This time of year is when I traditionally get moving – on projects, in the garden, around the house, etc. After the cold short days of winter the arrival of sun, longer days and a garden popping with growth is just good for the soul.
Which means that over the last couple of weeks we have been away camping, I have painted my son’s bedroom (finally) and our garden is full of beautiful blooms and green-ness! Our camping trip was only for three nights, but we were at our traditional spring campground, right on the beachfront and it was just what we all needed. We had two other families with us which meant that all the kids were busy and entertained, and the adults got to relax, catch up with each other and take turns watching children. My parents joined us for two nights which was an added bonus (especially because I left my favourite teas at home and they kindly delivered them for me, avoiding a major first world catastrophe!)
From our tent we could watch the waves, and were very excited on our last morning to be able to watch a mother and juvenile whale breaching and playing right in front of us – my daughter described it as doing back-flips as the baby jumped out of the water and landed on it’s back over and over again. The day before we had seen dolphins in closer and a whale further out but this was a new level of wonder!
We arrived home vowing to book for longer next time – and hopefully with the same group of friends as it worked so well. In the three days we were gone the garden had really started to blossom – literally! And the warm weather hasn’t just brought me and the flowers out into the garden – the lizards are appearing to sun themselves. As long as the snakes don’t join them we are fine!
A shingleback lizard hiding amongst the plants
A blue tongue lizard sunning on the concrete, very unperturbed by me and the dogs.
The most exciting spring news, however, is that at least 7 of our sheep are pregnant, and judging from their size, the size of their udders (who knew I would become an expert on sheep udders?) and the date that ‘Gordon Ramsey’ was introduced to the flock I think we will start to see lambs arriving from next weekend. I am excited but nervous about this development – hoping that nothing goes wrong, and that all the babies and mothers are healthy. Yesterday my boy and my father and I constructed a shade shelter/wind break from shade cloth and an old trailer cage frame – I love being able to repurpose in all areas of our life! I also plan to make another one with some pallets and corrugated iron. I had hoped to finally get to repurpose the swing set frame that I had originally planned to use for a chicken coop, but have accepted my father’s sensible advise about a different plan (for now!!)
The new shelter being completely ignored by the sheep
We had a livestock issue of another kind last week when my boy spotted a mouse in his room. Because I am such a chicken I quickly went and asked my parents (who aren’t scared of mice) to help – and while they cornered, capture and dispatched the mouse I delivered the famous ‘I told you so’ speech to my son about eating in his bedroom, not tidying up his mess etc. Of course, as a result of the mouse he then wouldn’t set foot in the room, insisted on sleeping in my room, on us fetching his clothes, etc. I hoped that it would pass with time but when, after returning from camping, he was still resident in my room it was time for drastic action! My parents kindly agreed to take all three children for a visit to their other grandparents, leaving the middle child there for a week, and overnighting with the other two. That gave me the chance to tackle his room – which I had been planning to get to for some months now that his aggressive behaviour has reduced significantly and the walls aren’t being damaged anymore. The before and after photos show what an improvement a simple coat of paint can achieve! I also cleaned out his wardrobe, sorted his toys and steam cleaned his carpet and he is once more happily back in his own room, and working hard to keep it tidy! Success! I bored everyone with my progress on facebook and Instagram, and one friend asked whether I had ruined the surprise by doing so. I explained that that surprising my boy is not a good option. To help him cope with any change he needs to be given lots of warning, to take part in the decision making, and to understand the process. Before I started painting I discussed it with him, and asked whether it would help him go back in there, and whether the change in colours (which he has been resisting for more than a year) would be a good idea. Luckily he embraced the idea and was delighted with the result! Autism parenting requires a whole different mind set!
During all of that time I didn’t get much ‘making’ done. But it did give me time to think and plan. There is something very meditative about painting walls! I have my first market stall in three weeks time after a three year break, so thinking about what I need to prepare, what stock I need, what branding is required, etc is a shift in thinking. After years of supporting other designers to hold stalls at one of the best markets in the country I am starting small, with a primary school fair, but my nerves might be bigger than when I last was involved as a stallholder! I will let you know how I go with getting organised!
In the meantime it is a long weekend here, the sun is out, and I have piles of washing to attend to! I hope that you are having a great week, with some achievements of your own!
A few weeks ago a recent acquaintance asked me if my ‘making ‘ was a business or a hobby. I have been pondering this ever since. A couple of years ago the answer was straightforward- business. I had a plan, I made enough profit that I had to pay tax and there was regular money making activity going on.
Then I had a break for over a year. Little income, no regular activity and no plan. Until 3 months ago when something clicked and I started making again. At first it was just making for making’s sake but it has grown again and while I don’t yet have a fully laid out business plan I do have some vague mental ideas about where I am going! Some of it is instinctual from my earlier time in business and some of it is aspirational because I continue to daydream that my life will magically change to create space for me to have time to be successful. A lot of it is held back by my pessimism/reality checks that my plans are so often undone by family life and my resultant mental health. So I ask myself, like a mantra, ‘hobby or business , hobby or business?’
Where does the line cross from one to another? For me I think it comes with making decisions about ‘making’ in a profitable, repeatable way. My crazy crocheted tea cosies where I create a whole new pattern for each piece? Hobby. I don’t recover the cost of time spent in making each piece if I apply a business model. But do I love making them? Yes!!!! Reusable tea bags? Business. Now that testing has finished I have a repeatable process for making, marketing and selling them.
All the things in between? Some land on the side of hobby, some cross the line to business. What to do with all of that? At this stage my approach is that it is all business. The unique, one of a kind, time intensive creations are attention getters that have a marketing function. The repeatable patterns that can be made in batches cover the costs of making the one off pieces. It all works together to fund materials, marketing and growth.
I also think that for me, thinking of what I am doing as a business helps to add a piece of self esteem back into a life where I previously self-identified as successful through my career achievements – a business is something that is about me, something that other people admire, something I can succeed at. (Because let’s face it, any judgement on my success as a parent and carer won’t really be known until they are grown and leading happy healthy lives!!)
The next hurdle is a mental one. I have products that are ready to wholesale so I can, in theory, start marketing them to retailers to stock. Gulp. But I haven’t. It remains on my ‘to do’ list. Why? Because the last few years have been so much like a roller coaster ride I have an ingrained fear that I won’t be able to keep any commitments that I make. Which begs the next question – why am I worried about letting others down? Do they really have high expectations of me or am I just setting my own bar too high and then self sabotaging so that I don’t reach it? Hmmmm…. self-analysis via writing this post indicates that I am, as usual, my own worst enemy!!
To shift myself fully into that business mindset it is probably time to write the plan down, instead of having vague aspirational thoughts and wandering around making stuff. Time to be a grown up, do the analysis and make a clear decision on business vs hobby. Wish me luck!
(In the background I have been playing with fabric combinations to make fabric insulated tea cosies- getting back to my happy place combining colours and patterns!! I have also been perfecting the cactus teacosy pattern!)
If you also ponder the line between hobby and business I would love to hear your thoughts !
Thank you to all who reached out to share and support when I was having a tough time last week. The great news is that things have continued to improve since then, so much so that I had one morning this week when all three children were at school! Of course I had left my crochet bag at home, so wasn’t quite sure what to do with myself for a while!
I have managed to get into the sewing room, and my other favourite making place, my armchair, and produce a few new things this week. After a special request I made another pineapple tea cosy – tweaking the pattern as I went, and am very happy with the results.
Then I decided to play with the idea of a cactus tea cosy and love this result!
Some time in the sewing room meant some dome style tea cosies and a wrap around cosy! My fabric stash is being re-discovered and I am loving it!!
A few more tiny cacti have grown in tiny teacups and I made some trivets with recycled t-shirt yarn. You might say that it has been a productive week!!
In the midst of all of this Spring has sprung (finally) so that might explain the additional energy I have had – all that vitamin D soaking in! My ‘to-do’ list is long at the moment – cleaning the house, finally painting a couple of rooms, getting some more sewing done, listing things in my shop…… so let’s hope that the sun stays out for a few more days!
I hope that you have had a creative and inspiring week.
If you read yesterday’s post you will understand that I was struggling, feeling broken and more than a bit overwhelmed. It had been a bad day, in a bad week, bad month, year…… you get the drift. Thank you to all who reached out with words of support and to share their own stories – it really does make a difference!
This morning I woke up feeling a bit better but still quite broken. My son refused to go to school again and I didn’t have the energy to deal with him. Then his nurse called to check in and suggested that I should consider arranging to have a stay in the private psychiatric clinic over the school holidays to have a break from the children and re-charge. Now while I understand where she is coming from, and I fully believe that ‘if mumma ain’t happy ain’t nobody happy’ etc, a stay in a psych ward did not sound like the answer to my prayers!
While still reeling from that call I realised that I needed an urgent appointment to get a prescription renewed for my son because, despite all the reminders that it was about to expire, I hadn’t managed to actually make the call. I had been thinking about ducking into town on my own as a way to escape the stress, so the thought of taking him with me did not fill me with joy. But you know what? It should have. Because he and I had a really thoughtful, logical and forward thinking chat on the drive in about how we are going to tackle his school refusal together. Then we looked at funny dog memes and laughed together while we waited to see the doctor, and when we saw the doctor, who is new to the practice, he made both her and I laugh with his funny puns and one liners. He was delightful in the supermarket, and helpful (more than either of his older sisters would have been in the same circumstances!). Then we went to an Op Shop that I like to check for teacups and teapots and he charmed the volunteer working the counter, helped me carry my finds and was generally delightful. And he insisted that I needed to buy one teapot in particular. The most expensive item in the photo below. The teapot that is actually meant to sit on top of a cup – which was absent. Making it the most expensive and least ‘together’ item in our haul. And yet it has charm and quirkiness that I can work with. A lot like him. (It is the striped one front and centre!)
To find my way out of my dark hole of depression I needed to remind myself of the good, the joy and the laughter that life with this gorgeous boy brings. And being forced to take him to the doctor was the best medicine that I could have had. Better than shopping therapy (which I can’t really afford, let’s be honest!). Better than drinking tea (shock, horror) and definitely better than drinking wine (gee my life has changed.) Enjoying him having a good day while we did things together was all it took.
I also had a lovely chat with a friend on the phone, ran into another friend at the shops quickly and generally had positive interactions that helped. A lot!
I write this as a reminder to myself for future reference, and as a way of letting you know that I am okay. I know that I need to work on my self-care, and this is a good reminder to put some plans in place for the school holidays that are coming up. But I also know that, as a wise and wonderful friend of mine often reminds me, “This too shall pass’. (Thanks Lizzie.)
Now to go off and be inspired by these new purchases – I see some cacti (crocheted) and some hole drilling for planting in my future!