Thoughts about Mental Health (now that’s ironic)

While at my cutting table, preparing some new stock (‘hooray’ I hear some say, ‘finally’ say others) I have been reflecting on two different conversations that I have had in the past week, and how I have responded, reacted and considered the issues raised.

The first was a conversation with a friend last week who was complaining about his ex-wife and in the midst of the conversation said ‘And you know she is still on antidepressants.’  This took me aback and I blurted out ‘But so am I.’   (He has known me for a long time and we have discussed my medication on several occasions.)  He responded “But you are pretty high functioning, and able to operate at a senior management level” as if this somehow meant that I didn’t need to be on anti-depressant medication.

My response was that people of all walks of life, with all sorts of ability take antidepressants.  This does not mean that they are not capable, not able to function, not ‘sane’ (which was the underlying message about his ex-wife of course).  It really got me thinking about how so much of society sees that medication for mental health is somehow not a good idea, or a sign of weakness, or a sign of an unstable character.

Talking openly about mental health isn't the easy choice, but it is the right one.

Talking openly about mental health isn’t the easy choice, but it is the right one.

Then yesterday I received a communication from my ex-husband who suggested that our son may have an auditory processing disorder, and that I should research this, as it can often be mistaken for ADHD (which our son is diagnosed with, along with other mental health issues.)  Now apart from the fact that I already have an independent psychological assessment report that states that our son has processing difficulties (that has been provided to his father) it made me realise that because our son’s condition is being treated so effectively with medication, (after years of trial and error with everything from naturopaths, chiropractors, diet, exercise, behavioural management strategies etc – so please don’t offer me new alternatives to medication) his father now thinks that he doesn’t have the very issue that he is being medicated for.

While my initial reaction might have been anger at yet another challenge to the professional advice that I have sought and questioned and administered over the last 4 years, it occurred to me a little later on that perhaps the two conversations had something in common.

Neither of these men would suggest that a person prescribed medication to address a heart condition should not take it.  Neither would they consider offering their own diagnosis on what the ‘actual’ problem was.  They wouldn’t suggest that this person wasn’t fit and proper to carry out their job based on their use of prescription medication.  But when it is a mental health issue, they were both happy to judge, to re-diagnose, to second guess and to ignore the effects of medication as treating a medical condition.

None of this is new I suppose.  It just saddens me that despite education, information, and open conversations, people still can’t see past their prejudice about mental health to look at the evidence sitting in front of them.   I don’t have any answers to how to solve this, but I am comfortable with my resolve to talk about my experiences with my own mental health and that of my children (where appropriate) to remind people that depression and anxiety can affect anyone from any walk of life, and is treatable.  Maybe it will help someone else to understand that it is simply another medical condition. Nothing more, nothing less.

And now I return to cutting out fabric.  Happy days!

4 thoughts on “Thoughts about Mental Health (now that’s ironic)

  1. magistra13

    So true. And when you think about how complex our brain is, why does it surprise people to think it might need help? They don’t question a spleen or a liver needing help. Sigh.
    I used to work at a psychiatric hospital on the children and teenagers’ side. It would be so great to see some of them get better slowly but surely as their medical team tried different medications and treatments and went through the long process of finding the right treatment and giving it the adjustment time it needed. Then there would be the happy hugs when they left, so much better off.
    Then, appallingly too often, there would be the return of the kid 2 to 5 weeks later because everybody would start bugging the parents about letting their kid be on medication and what terrible parents they were. So the parent would take them off their meds and the poor kid would have to start back at zero again.
    Very few people are busy bodies telling people how to treat lung or bladder issues. But it feels like everyone has an opinion on medical treatments for mental health issues.
    I’m sorry, Thersa. I shouldn’t have hi-jacked your blog and practically write an entry myself, but this is a subject that is near and dear to my heart. I totally agree with your frustration over the issue. I know I’ll keep fighting the good fight and try to help educate people around me more about mental health and its treatments. I’m sure you will too. Eventually, someday, it will be better than it is now. And maybe, someday, people will accept mental health treatments and medications. Writing about it is a good way to help people become more comfortable with the whole topic. So, thanks, for wading in there and trying! And thank goodness you’re there to be an advocate and watchdog for your son 🙂

    1. a little bird

      Thank you for wading in! It warms my heart to know that there are others out there fighting the good fight to help our community become more comfortable with the topic.


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